Sapphire’s 10th Birthday

They met in Second grade and wanted to spend every minute together. They were together so much that their moms became best friends too.  Then they grew up and things changed. Middle school happened: social groups changed, interest changed, and then physical distance (final nail in friendship coffin).  Our families went from seeing one another everyday to twice a month. 

Different as night and day. Arie is the skater girl in all black, into gaming, dark moody songs and lover of all animals. Sapphire is the social butterfly, loves makeup, hair, and shopping, with a soft spot for people in need.  Because of there differences there have been hurt feels that had to be managed.  So when Cora and I decided our families should shelter in place together I had concerns about how long the peace would last.

Then Friday I looked outside and saw the girls laughing and playing on the trampoline and it made me smile.  I remembered all the misunderstandings, frustrated talks on the drive home and my demand for servility. So to see them genuinely hanging out and discussing college choices…mind blown! During this quarantine theses two have stayed up late chatting, sat together to do school work, they even tag team teasing Devin (the little sister). Not one argument…yet. Not saying that they are the bests of friends (still different as night and day) but they care about one another and look out for one another again. I see God doing a new thing in this friendship and in the lives of our families. The peace of God is in this house and love & patience is abounding. 

Although these are scary times I choose to see the benefits of the shelter in place….quality time! I hope you find glimmers of hope for your family as well. 

Deuteronomy 31:6 “Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them, for it is the Lord your God who goes with you. He will not leave you or forsake you.”

I’m the ‘what if’ type…I run through different scenarios in my head and what I would do if this or that would happen. This coronavirus outbreak was one of my ‘what if’s’…being sheltered in place with limited resources and having to protect my child.  Fears that we’d get separated and I wouldn’t be able to get back to her, she’d be lost and afraid. And the whole social isolation…the worse punishment ever! Yes, it feels like a punishment, I am 1 of 7 children so I’m just used to being around people. I need community and not ashamed to say it! Can we say worse fears coming to life!  

Just as I started to feel my anxiety rising, I was reminded in prayer of all the time my heavenly Father has covered me and protected me. I started to think about times when I had $20 to buy food for the week, when my employment was uncertain, when all my friends started to move away and yet I’d made it through those times so why fear now?!?  As I spent time just thinking and processing this whole thing, I could see God’s hand at work. Every trail he’s taken we through in the last 10yrs has been chipping away at my fears about safety, health, and stability. God has been strengthening me and stabilizing me this whole time. Now I’m more than confident that I am not alone, He’s always been there: leading, guiding, and protecting. Psalms 23 Says He is my shepherd I have everything I need.  And when I walk through shadowy places I don’t have to fear because he is with me.

Single Parents- I know it feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders but know that you are not alone. Spend time talking to God and allow him to talk back. He will give you wisdom on how to stay safe, witty ideas to home school your kids and inventions on how to make the dollar stretch. If we allow him, God will carry the weight of our issues: we just have to give it to Him.

A scripture to consider

Matthew 6: 25-34 (Do Not Worry)

26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?

27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life[e]?

28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin.

29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these.

30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith?

31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’

32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them.

33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.